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Michael's avatar

My wife is in Mt Sinai hospital in Miami Beach and I have shared your book with our Filipino nurse Jeana and she has given it to a Filipino nurse friend. I cried at the ending. Thanks Michael S

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Annabelle Tometich's avatar

Thank you so much Michael! I'm happy you enjoyed it, and so thankful you shared it!

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Rachielle Sheffler's avatar

Oh no. Just getting to know her from the book. Hang in there.

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Mari Linares's avatar

❤️‍🩹

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KellyC's avatar

I'm so sorry you're going through this, Annabelle, especially during what you no doubt hoped would be a joyful time. Seems like everything is intense everywhere you turn. <3

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Kita's avatar

Thank you for sharing with us in such a vulnerable moment. Sometimes writing these things down feels like it makes no sense and sometimes it’s the only thing that makes any sense at all. I wish well for you, your nanay, and your family <3

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Annabelle Tometich's avatar

Thank you Kita! Salamat po

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Patricia Borns's avatar

Hey, Annabelle, so glad you're mom is still among you and hope this event will be the wakeup call that helps her take better care. Even with a challenged relationship it's life-changing to lose a mom ... or even come close! I was wondering, did you share the book with your mom yet? (Maybe I missed a post about it.) If so, would love to know her reactions. Take good care.

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Annabelle Tometich's avatar

I shared it with her, but her dementia is pretty bad and I don’t think she’ll ever be able to read it. This is maybe a silver lining? But honestly, i don’t think she’d be ashamed of anything in the book. She’s not the shameful kind

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Patricia Borns's avatar

So sorry, I didn't know that (dementia). Yes, the way you describe her, I imagine she'd not only be proud of you for writing the book but proud of herself for seeing her daughter turned out as kick-ass as she is :)

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Lauren Tripp Barlis's avatar

I’m so sorry to hear this Annabelle. I lost my mom in 2021, and little by little for years before that to dementia. That liminal space where she is here but also heading toward not-here is the hardest to be in.

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Annabelle Tometich's avatar

Yes. And in that same space this person both is my mom and isn’t. Ooof

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Lauren Tripp Barlis's avatar

Yep...one of my hardest moments I remember just lying in bed sobbing and asking my husband where he thought my real mom was. Sending you support.

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Jim Baldwin's avatar

Sorry to hear about your Mom. Something about the timing of all this is resonant. Hang in there.

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Sally's avatar

Sending love and support to you.

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Martha Maas's avatar

I just finished The Mango Tree and am very excited to hear you speak on Tuesday, April 8, at the Literary Society here in Fort Myers. I admire you for loving your mom the way she is and looking for her strengths. You said, "She doesn't need to be a Somebody. She is who she is" (299). I think you know who you are, too, Annabelle. Also, I love the way you call Buddy your "pericardium."

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